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Section 1: Create Your Attractive Lifestyle Game Plan
The first lesson is a recording of a training called “How my clients create a lifestyle that attracts high quality dates, without any duds, getting stood up or feeling exhausted.”
LISTEN TO THIS FIRST. You will understand the asset categories of attraction, how to meet people in person, how to meet people online, and how to create chemistry in minutes.
Each section below builds on the concepts in the first lesson.
The are three bonus attachments for this section: the Attractive Lifestyle Game Plan, Green Lights and Flirt with Confidence.
Section 1.1 DMM Roadmap – Dating Market Net Worth (51 min)
What do you have to offer your dates? When they interact with you, what factors will entice them to pursue you? The answer to those questions are critical. To be a confident, charismatic person, you need a clear understanding of what makes you attractive. In this lesson, we measure what your assets are on the dating market.
Section 1.2 DMM Roadmap – Attractive Concept (29 min)
How would you describe yourself in your most attractive state? Mentally, you need to have a practical method to conceptualize your attractiveness and jolt yourself into action. In this lesson, we design your “Attractive Concept”.
Section 1.3 DMM Roadmap – Reflect on Life Changing Value (18 min)
Knowing what you have to offer will give you a foundation of confidence. BELIEVING in what you have to offer will make you magnetic. In this lesson, we reflect on the true value you can offer to your dates.
Download in mp3 format
- 1.0 Attractive Lifestyle Game Plan
- 1.1 DMM Roadmap – Intro and DMNW
- 1.2 DMM Roadmap – Attractive Concept
- 1.3 DMM Roadmap – Reflect on Life Changing Value”
Download in pdf/xls format
- 1.0 Attractive Lifestyle Game Plan
- 1.0 Green Lights – How to See Signs of Interest
- 1.0 Flirt With Confidence
- 1.1 DMM Roadmap – Intro and DMNW
Section 2 – The Easy Traffic Generation Matrix
2.1 Easy Traffic – List Assets for Traffic (12 min)
An attractive lifestyle makes you feel alive and provides unlimited options to meet new dates… without stressing over missed opportunities! In this lesson, we plan out your ideal lifestyle.
2.2 Easy Traffic – Traffic Strategies PART 1 (47 min)
There are five main strategies for meeting new people. In order to be successful with dating, you need a strategy with a high Return on Energy (ROE) and you need to know how to transition a casual encounter into a date. There is a PDF called “The Traffic Generation Wheel” that accompanies this lesson.
2.3 Easy Traffic – Traffic Strategies PART 2 (43 min)
We continue the discussion of the five main strategies for meeting new people. Traffic Strategies PART 1 covered One-on-One, Activities and In-Network. PART 2 will cover the remaining two strategies. Continue to follow along with the PDF called “The Traffic Generation Wheel”.
2.4 Easy Traffic – Success Concepts (55 min)
Ultimately, you want to have complete control over the dating prospects you meet and the impact you make during the interaction. For each of the five main strategies for meeting new people, there are “success concepts” you must understand to utilize the strategy effectively.
Section 3 – Customizable Conversation Openers and Attraction Tactics
3.1 Conversations – JAM Relational Model (26 min)
The key to becoming a conversationalist is improving your ability to make compelling observations. This lesson gives you a model you can use to make observations about how to start a conversation in any situation and quickly create emotional investment. There is a PDF called the “JAM Relational Model” that accompanies this lesson.
3.2 Conversations – Styles and Indirect Openers (17 min)
What is your style of conversing? If I asked five people what it is like to talk to you, what would they say? This lesson challenges you to define your style and walks you through your options for starting a conversation indirectly (without expressing romantic interest).
3.3 Conversations – Direct Openers (17 min)
Boldness, decisiveness and confidence are sexy characteristics. When you take a risk and communicate your attraction to potential dates, you hold all of the power. This lesson walks you through your options for approaching a cutie directly (expressing your attraction towards them).
3.4 Conversations – Social Openers (9 min)
There is beauty in simplicity. I’ve found that when I keep my approaches casual and simple, the response is overwhelmingly positive. This lesson walks you through your options for starting conversations in a very general, but social way.
3.5 Conversations – Groups and Practice (22 min)
Let’s face it. Most people who go out to socialize are with a group of friends. While your interest may be in one attractive person, you need to learn how to gain approval from the whole group. This lesson walks you through examples for approaching groups and lists practice exercises you can do to master starting conversations.
3.6 Conversations – Conversation Threads (21 min)
You started the conversation. Great! Now… what do you say to keep the conversation going? To be successful with dating, you need to trust your ability to notice opportunities to extend the chat. This lesson shows you the skills to continue conversations in a deep way.
3.7 Conversations – Attraction Tactics (31 min)
Creating emotional investment piques their interest and makes them feel significant. When you talk about topics of substance, you grab their attention. However, to create romantic chemistry and avoid the friend zone, you need to flirt! This lesson covers simple attraction tactics that truly work.
3.8 Conversations – Extending Invitations and Recap (24 min)
Even if the conversation seems to be going well, the thought of asking for their contact information (or getting them to ask) can be nerve racking. You have to be ready to make a move in the moment. This lesson shows you how to smoothly invite them to speak again in the future.
Download in mp3 format
- 3.1 Conversations – JAM Relational Model
- 3.2 Conversations – Styles and Indirect Openers
- 3.3 Conversations – Direct Openers
- 3.4 Conversations – Social Openers
- 3.5 Conversations – Groups and Practice
- 3.6 Conversations – Conversation Threads
- 3.7 Conversations – Attraction Tactics
- 3.8 Conversations – Extending Invitations and Recap
Download in pdf format
Section 4 – The Perfect Date Formula
4.1 Date Formula – Date Guidelines (24 min)
Look, you can throw the rulebook out of the window. Every person you date is different, therefore every date is going to be different. You need to be able to adapt to the person in front of you based on a solid set of principles. This lesson discusses guidelines for official dates.
4.2 Date Formula – Types of Dates (11 min)
The date you choose serves one of three purposes. To guarantee you don’t lose the momentum you’ve built, you need to understand WHEN and WHY you should go on specific types of dates. This lesson explains the benefits of the three types of dates.
4.3 Date Formula – Dating Purpose Statement (26 min)
Can you be real with yourself and your date about what you want? Or do you give the politically correct answer to the question: what are you looking for? To act with a purpose, you must first define your purpose. This lesson helps you create a strong, honest statement that communicates your purpose for dating.
4.4 Date Formula – 7 Phases of a Date (47 min)
What should you do when you are on the date? How do you know if the date went well? Valid questions and you need to know the answers. This lesson outlines a report card you can use to evaluate how you handled the critical phases of your date. There is a PDF called the “Date Evaluation Report Card” that accompanies this lesson.
4.5 Date Formula – 100 Signature Date Ideas (29 min)
Have you ever been dating someone and it felt like you were going through the motions? You had so many dates together that you ran out of ideas. This lesson helps you identify your signature date idea for the beginning stages of dating, but also gives 100 fresh ideas for new dates going forward. There is a PDF called “100 Date Ideas” that accompanies this lesson.
Bonus Section – 5.5 Fear of Rejection and Limiting Beliefs
Throughout life, we rack up beliefs about ourselves. Some of your believes are conscious and others are not. If you feel like there is a deep rooted belief that is sabotaging your dating success, you need to find a way to break through. This is asks serious questions to help you break through your sticking points.
Bonus Section – 6.1 Texting Advice
Before you decide to skip over this lesson, trust me, you need it! Whenever I read text messages from the people I coach (maybe I’ve read yours), it’s evident they don’t fully understand the purpose of texting and how it affects attraction. This lesson provides clear and undeniable guidelines for building chemistry through texting, with examples included.